I've been thinking about this for a bit now. A specific type of Mistress. The "Mommy Domme" if you will. I know this term can cover a wide range. I'm not specifically talking about adult baby and that type of thing, NOT that I'm saying it's bad if you enjoy that.
I've just been thinking. There's a beautiful Lady I know who is a dream come true for a lot of sissies and CD's. Believe me, when she can make Her dream come true, you will love it. She cares about girls like us. Has a real passion in fact.
I have spent a lot of time on the net through the years talking to sissies, encouraging and even helping them where I can. The new ones especially. I want everyone to be as girlie as they want to be.
I've had it suggested to me that I become an online T-Girl Mistress. I'm still thinking it over. I try to offer advice to those trying to find their way, and I think I could be useful in that area. It's also been suggested that I start training for it as a sub. Funny thing is I've really never considered any of this for me, other than a general fascination with some aspects of the lifestyle (I'm editing two erotic novels on the subject).
I'm generally very soft core. My friend is a Mommy Domme type. She loves the lifestyle and has helped many people get in touch with the girl inside them. She's mature, but still beautiful and very intelligent.
And that gets me to here. What is a Mommy Domme? To me, some of the things I think make a good Mommy Domme (again, not the adult baby type):
1-Motherly, meaning loving, but firm. Don't disobey her, or you will be punished. Listen to what she says because she knows best. You want to make your Mommy happy to gain Her approval.
2-You will be punished if you don't obey. This means spankings for one. If it's an online setting this will call for creativity.
3-Mommy will help you get started in dressing. What to wear. Things to buy first. Steps on what to wear out of the house first. Maybe that's panties and a cami under male clothes or more than that. She has your best interest at heart and isn't trying to humiliate you, though you may feel that way at times. She's trying to get you to truly accept that you are a sissy.
4-Mommy's expectations. Online, since she can't see you in person, you will have a digital camera at least and preferably a video cam. Mommy Domme will want to see proof that you are obeying her wishes. Video camming is for one on one sessions, decisions and discussions. Including other things mentioned below.
5-Be truthful from the start. Mommy expects complete honesty from her sissy. She can't help you if she doesn't know what it is you want, so speak up. Then, do as she says. Shes trying to help you get what you want. At session's end you can talk about how you feel about all of this and if there is something you'd like to see or don't like. If you start topping from below, you're gonna mess it up for both of you. Honesty is expected and DEMANDED.
6-Chastity. In person it's a lot easier, but it's possible online too by mailing the key in a secure package (no cheap envelopes). Maybe the key is only with her for a day before she mails it back, maybe longer. Once you've trusted Her, it's Her decision to know what's best for you.
7-Toys. Mommy Domme may include toys in this if this is a wish of yours. She will likely require proof. You may need a dildo or a butt plug or both. She will instruct you on how to do this. You may be asked to leave the house with a plug inserted for brief periods of time.
8-Assignments-Mommy Domme may instruct you on things to do or things to buy at the store. It may be lipstick, panties or whatever She sees fit. It is meant to help you, and proof will be required.
9-Naughty Assignments-If you've asked for help on this, She will do her best to guide you. At times this may include cell phone conversations. You may be wanting to taste your own cum, and Mommy Domme will guide you to that big step. You may want to taste somebody else's, and She will help guide you to that.
10-Positive Reinforcement-Mommy Domme differs a little in the way she does this than the average Domme. She's not trying to humiliate you, though She can chose to do so. She's trying to guide you with her approval and disapproval of how you are doing. If you fail, she will tell you that you have disappointed her. If you are successful, you will hear how very proud she is of you.
You will want to please her by doing it right the first time. You don't want to be punished. If it's online we are talking about, not only might She verbally berate you for being a disappointment. She may deny access to her (as in restrictions) for a certain period of time. She may ask you to think about what you've done during that time or do a video or write a letter telling her why you are sorry for displeasing her.
11-Loving Mommy. This may get a little kinky at times. You want to please Her any way you can. If She deems the time is right (it's not up to you), you may show her or tell her what you will do to make her feel loved and appreciated by you.
12-Respect. Above all is RESPECT. If you find your Mommy Domme (or any Domme really) you must show Her respect at all times. She is a Goddess to you, so treat her as such. Don't tell Her what to do. Tell her what it is you are looking for and trust her that She will see to it that you get the things you need to bring your girliness to the forefront, where it belongs.
Well, those are my thoughts Anyway. Feel free to add to it if you want.
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