Advice For The Sissy Who Wants A Domme Wife

A sissy asks me the other day, "How do I get my wife to be more dominant?"

Um, lets see, how about you start by OBEYING HER.  That's at the core of the sissy handbook, you silly sissy.  Obey your Mistress.  She tells you to do something, don't argue with Her, do it.  She starts yelling at you, sit and take it.  This isn't rocket science.

Don't sit around there telling her to order you, you fool.  That's topping from below.  You want to please her, listen to what she is saying, and do what she asks.  Not, "I'll do this if you do that for me."

First, she must know that you accept that She is the one in control and get used to the idea.  So, you have to commit to it down to every detail, not just when it's convenient for you.  You're watching TV and she comes in and wants to watch something other than the game, give her the remote and sit there and watch whatever it is with her.

She starts talking about her feet being sore.  Offer her a foot massage.  She needs the dishes done, do them.  In the bedroom, do things Her way and put Her needs first.  Ask about Her day.  And listen to Her.  If she asks for your opinion or seems stuck, give her some advice in a friendly and non judgmental way, not like you know everything.  Be supportive of her.

She's going to see the change in you, and conversations may begin.  Tell her that you feel it is important that she be happy   Tell her sometimes you feel so unworthy of her and lucky to have her.  Tell her that her happiness is important to you, and that doing what it takes to please her makes you happy.

If the subject turns to the idea of dominant women, point her to web sites for Female Led Relationships.  Those generally show the merits of Her running things without hitting her over the head with kink she may not be ready for.  You can also suggest that if she wants to be more dominant in a D/s sort of way, you are ready to commit to that.  Suggest a few sites that explain what is it to be a Mistress.  But, let her look it all up and think about it.

If this rings a bell with her, She will let you know after her research.  At that point, she may want to have THE conversation, and that's when you get it in the open, agreeing NOT to judge each other for being honest.  You may hear things from her that shock you.  She may, for instance, like the idea of cuckolding, but that's not something you are comfortable with.

You may like the idea of sissification, and she's not crazy about that.  Can you see why a woman who accepts that her husband is a sissy and indulges that side of him may want to bring in a lover and cuck the little sissy?  No judgements.  If it gets to this point, there will be compromises before a commitment is made, or things may be thrown out or agreed to that aren't your preferences.

Can you handle all of that?  If you can, good for you.  Submit to Her and prove to Her you are worthy.  If you can't handle it, then why don't you just spank your little thingy to feminization porn and keep it a fantasy?  Because, if it gets to this point, chances are pretty good that your little thing is gonna be locked in chastity with the key on a chain around her neck.  Are you sissy enough to handle that ;)