Some sissies simply know they were born to serve a strong Mistress. Some aren't there yet. They may have thought about it, but what they are thinking first and foremost is they need help. They need help with make up, picking out nice outfits and help bringing their feminine feelings to the outside.
When a sissy cant find her, there are a couple options. You can either give up because you have no help, or you start doing what you can. This is a topic we address elsewhere, because many sissies do just that. It's not easy, but it can be done.
However, you have to consider that Mistress has a kinky side too, and she needs to have it indulged. Look at it this way. She helps you pick out things for your wardrobe. She helps you learn make up. She coaches you on how to walk (in heels) and how to talk. You learn presentation from her.
That's all fine, but ask yourself a question. What are you doing for her? So many sissies think a woman should just help them out of the goodness of her heart, but when something is asked of them, they get nervous or just run away.
What if she asks you to submit to her? Can you do it? I know the worries start to come up. You worry about giving up control to her. You like her, maybe even love her. If you submit, you worry that she will think of you as nothing and things will change, This is amplified by things she will say to you when you submit.
You need to talk with her before you go into anything An open discussion is important. What are you willing to try? What is she looking to do? You reach a clear understanding of what will happen, but also an understanding that she will push you past those limits.
Why would she do that? Part of the act of submission is to test yourself. What are you willing to do to please Her? If it's outside your comfort zone just a little bit, can you test yourself? You may get something out of it and it's almost a given that she will. And she deserves that too.
Trust is a big issue here. You, as a sissy, are about to enter into a power exchange with a beautiful dominant woman. It can be intimidating and a lot of things will enter your mind. Since we're talking lifestyle Mistress here, she has suggested taking the relationship into this area after helping you bring your inner girlie to the forefront
Did she do a good job with you in helping you explore your feminine side? Are you happy exploring this with her? Then, you need to consider letting go and trusting her. She wants to do this for both of you. It's about making both of you happy, and she wouldn't have suggested it if she didn't think you'd like it. Talk about it and then commit.
Once you do, don't spend time undermining her while you are engaged in a scene. Talk about those things later. Let the scene play out and give it a chance. If she's testing you, she has a reason that should become apparent as it plays out. You have to be able to surrender to the moment.
It is all about surrendering to her desires and letting her be your guide. And what might that include? She's probably going to do things to humiliate you a little, maybe some actions, maybe calling you certain names. Many times, she will require a commitment from you, and that means you may be in chastity.
That idea will scare a lot of sissies. They don't like the idea of having their most personal body part locked behind a device that somebody else holds the key to. But, that's the beauty of submission here. You are showing your commitment, even your love for her by letting her tell you when you can use it for pleasure. It is a big deal.
She may requite you to wear the panties she picks out for you. She is very interested in introducing toys to the bedroom. This may mean a plug, and it may also mean a strap on, or even both. Her own personal requirements might involved lots of oral when she wants it. For some Domme/sub relationships, this covers most of it.
However, it can go up a notch or many depending on what you want. Restraints may be introduced next. She may like tying down her sissy to keep her in place. Like chastity, this requires your submission, and it means trusting her not to hurt you. She'll be saying things to you that may make you unsure, but that's the point. Will she really go there with you? You'll be wondering.
You may have carelessly let it slip that you would like to orally please a guy. Don't think for a minute she forgot that. Now that you are her sissy sub, she may make it a reality for you. Are you scared? Good. She likes that. But you will do this for her, because it will make her happy.
How far are you willing to go, because this has so many more levels? Can you sit and watch when she brings another man into the bedroom to please her? Will you perform oral on him before he does it? Will you clean her up orally afterwards? She may bring in more than one guy and both of you may be in action that night under her supervision. Can you handle that?
I probably just made you more nervous, but I can't speak for your Mistress. Generally, you agree on where you want to go, and that is respected with some boundaries being tested as she sees fit. However, she did so much for you, I think it might be fair for her to ask if you will be her sissy sub. It may be the best decision you'll ever make.
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